Nancy Star, Rules for Moving

Nancy Star
Rules for Moving
in conversation with Alice Eliott Dark
Saturday, June 6, 5pm

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From bestselling author Nancy Star comes a deeply moving novel about the truths
we hide from others and the lies we tell ourselves.

To the outside world, beloved advice columnist Lane Meckler has all the answers. But she also has a secret: her life is a disaster that’s just gotten worse. Her husband, whom she was planning to leave, has died in a freak accident. Her six-year-old son, Henry, has stopped speaking to everyone but her. Lane's solution? Move. Growing up, that was what her family did best.

But after moving from New York City to New Jersey, and from New Jersey to Martha’s Vineyard, Lane has to face the truth: the only thing relocating changes is the scenery. To really help her son, she needs to stay put and figure out the answers to the tough questions she’s been avoiding for years. Why did her family move so often? Why has she always felt like an outsider? How can she get Henry to speak?

It is in the course of her unwavering mission to help her son find his voice that Lane realizes somewhere along the way,
she’s lost her own. To help them both, the time has come to figure out why.

Nancy Star is the author of the bestselling novel Sisters One, Two, Three, a Publishers Weekly top ten print book and Amazon Kindle bestseller of 2016. Her previous novels, which have been translated into several languages, include Carpool Diem, Up Next, Now This, and Buried Lives. Her essays have appeared in the Washington Post, the New York Times, Money, and Family Circle. Before turning to writing fiction full-time, Nancy worked for over a decade as a movie executive at the Samuel Goldwyn Company and the Ladd Company, dividing her time between New York and London. She now lives in New Jersey with her husband. For more information, visit

Alice Elliott Dark is the author of the novel Think of England, as well as two story collections,Naked to the Waist and In the Gloaming. A new novel, Fellowship Point, will be published in 2021. She is an Associate Professor of English at Rutgers University, Newark and lives in New Jersey.


"With Rules for Moving, Nancy Star takes us beyond the paywall to ask what happens when our favorite internet advice columnist needs help of her own. A tender exploration of family, friendship, and what it means to be the black sheep." --Julia Phillips, National Book Award finalist, author of Disappearing Earth

"Nancy Star's delightful and wise Rules for Moving could have been called Rules for Living. Advice columnist Lane offers her readers the help we would be lucky to receive: kind but unwaveringly honest, unexpected but utterly sensible. While Lane makes a boatload of mistakes, she never wavers in her fierce dedication to understanding and protecting her sweet but troubled young son, who Star paints with humor and rare insight. Readers will be transformed by watching Lane surmount her own tragedies with the grace and courage we dearly wish for ourselves." --Lisa Gornick, author of The Peacock Feast and Louisa Meets Bear

"Rules for Moving highlights once again Nancy Star's sense of humor and empathy for tenderhearted people who are struggling to find a place in the world. I rooted for Lane Meckler, the snappy advice columnist who has no quick comeback when her six-year-old son goes silent with everyone but her. The novel is as suspenseful as a mystery and as wise as an Elizabeth Strout book." --Alice Elliott Dark, author of In the Gloaming and Think of England

"An advice columnist in desperate need of advice. A son who won't talk. A rented house unfit for habitation. Nancy Star's poignant novel Rules for Moving captures the chaos and heartbreak that is life--and also the wonder and joy." --Marcy Dermansky, author of Very Nice

"Nancy Star has written a beautiful, luminous novel filled with quirky characters so real you want to bring them home with you and give them some tea and a hug. This book has it all: an advice columnist who is struggling to follow her own best advice; an adorable little boy who has decided to stop talking; and an eccentric family that is burdened with secrets and rules. There is love and laughter and sweetness--and Star's insightful writing and humor sweep us right to the heart of things. I loved every page!" --Maddie Dawson, Washington Post bestselling author of Matchmaking for Beginners



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ISBN: 9781542006378
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Published: Lake Union Publishing - May 19th, 2020

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